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Dec. 16th, 2004 @ 01:01 pm Welcome~
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I started this comminity to help single parents with dating.
I don't have any degrees or such, but I've been a single parent for 10 of my son's 11 yrs.

I've recently started trying to get back into the dating scene after putting my social life on hold for 9 years.

Let me tell you, it ain't easy.

I'm in my early 30's and I work a full time job, there's school all week and chores on the weekends, lets not forget the countless errands we all run.

I started up my social life, by just going out with other single parent friends and family members. We seem to all face the same problem.

Guys just simply think we're not interested because we're busy all the time.
It's a real pain to meet the possible man of your dreams and have so many things already scheduled they think you're trying to blow them off.

So I figure maybe there's other single parents that have this same problem, and maybe they might have a solution...or we can all work on one together and support each other in the vast adventure that is dating.

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From:llwinks
Date:December 28th, 2004 02:55 pm (UTC)
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I am a 29 y/o single mother I have been single 6 of the 9 years. I haven't been out dating since. I just don't have the time or I have bno one to go out with so I don't go out. I am def. ready to meet new people and I woule like more than anything to meet a special someone.

Your intro reminded me much of myself!

Hopefully this community will be a great start to something exciting!

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From:ddcatwoman
Date:December 28th, 2004 03:49 pm (UTC)
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Welcome winks!

I was beginning to think no one would find this place. lol.
I feel your pain. It's hard to get back out there. All of your single friends don't understand and let's not even start in with the guys.

How many kids do you have and what are their ages?

You've been out of the game almost as long as I have. I keep feeling like all the rules have changed whenever I try to get involved with someone or even just go out on a date.

Have you been out there yet?

It's scary lol.
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From:llwinks
Date:December 28th, 2004 03:56 pm (UTC)
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It is scary, I have been out here and there but with no luck. I wish I could go out by my self but I just don't feel comfortable. I have no single friends left lol. So they don't really do much and hanging out at their houses doesn't necessarily open up doors for me. lol

I have one daughter she is 9. How about you? Where are you from how old are you?

I have found that because I have been single for so long it is harder for me to adjust to accept someone into my life as badly as I want to it is hard.
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From:ddcatwoman
Date:December 28th, 2004 06:43 pm (UTC)
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I have found that because I have been single for so long it is harder for me to adjust to accept someone into my life as badly as I want to it is hard.
I hear that. I'm so used to just doing everything on my own I just pick up and go without thinking of asking if they'd want to go too. lol

I met a nice guy and because he said I was so busy it just didn't work out. It's hard to make that adjustment.

I have a son who is 11. I live in New Jersey and I'm 33. I figure soon my son will be older and have a life with his friends (teenagers yikes!) and I'll be home alone.

I've made him my stand in "date" so to speak by taking him with me to do all the things I want to do. (movies, museums, outdoor activites etc)

I also agree with the friends that want to hang out at home. Then you've got to scan through the guys you do meet.
Some of them think single mom = desperate woman and you'll take whatever they have to offer lol.
Last thing I want is a guy bumming on my couch sponging off me while I keep doing what I'm doing.

I've found I'm more selective since I became a single mom...it doesn't help matters much that's for sure *g*
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From:llwinks
Date:December 28th, 2004 06:50 pm (UTC)
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wow we sound like we have alot of the same "problems" lol

I am in CT not too far
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From:zombill
Date:January 22nd, 2005 09:10 pm (UTC)
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i found your journal and i figured i'd write. Im 22 and a single dad. I have a 16 month old daughter. I'm havin a real hard time finding women that will date a man with a child. I live in canada
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From:ddcatwoman
Date:June 26th, 2005 09:25 pm (UTC)
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So sorry I didn't write to you sooner. I had started dating someone and wasn't on LJ anymore. I hope you are still around and interested in the community.

It's hard for anyone with kids to find someone to date. There are some people that will say they don't care, but once they get involved, and see everything that goes with it or things you are limited to doing or not doing.

They eventually move on.

I'm sure it's not hopeless though and there is someone out there for everyone.